Live, Laugh and Love Today not Tomorrow.
As I write this article, I am in the reflection mood. I cannot live another day like this-scared of the future, disoriented, worried etc. Is all hope lost? Definitely not. Tomorrow is all I have to make things better. As long as you still have life, things can get better. I know, you must be wondering how someone alive cannot live. Well, your guess is as good as mine; I don’t know what I have been doing with this supposedly beautiful gift of life.
Midlife Crisis or What?
Is this what they call the midlife crisis? My mind up until now is full of questions without answers. With all this, one thing remains for sure; I have learned my lessons, the hard way of course. Do you know the adage that gold is refined by fire? I am pure gold now…
If I Could Start All Over….
If I had to start all afresh, one thing I would do is to live in the NOW. Take each day as it comes, look at the positives however minimal they may be. Move outside the house, take in that fresh air, and look at the sun, stars or moon-whatever is available at that particular time.
Its All There Around You
Appreciate plants and trees in the neighborhood, watch the birds in the air, sing along with them, if possible. When you get back to the house, you will feel energized. The universe has got healing powers-a fact I have learnt over time.
If you are willing to observe, listen and learn, most times than not, the universe will give positive energy which everyone needs. Suddenly you feel lighter, energetic, happy and ready to take on the world. Only that? You said. Yes, it’s that simple.
What if?
I remember how one time I was to travel to a neighboring country- Rwanda precisely. It is an 8hr 25minutes drive by bus and 45mins-1hour flight from Kampala Uganda to Kigali Rwanda. Since I had traveled there before by bus, naturally I would have preferred a different mode- flight. It’s faster and more luxurious. However, at the time, I was not doing well financially so the bus was my only choice. I packed my bags a few days in advance and was all set for my journey.
In a turn of events, one evening my then boyfriend was chatting and I told him about it. He was willing to pay for my air ticket! How lovely, you said. Well, my reaction was different-I wanted him to give me the money so I save it for a rainy day and travel by bus as earlier planned!
Gal, Get out of Your Mind
In my mind am thinking I will use it to pay rent or buy food or better still pay some of the utility bills. But come to think of it, I had never flown in my life. What if this was the only opportunity for me to fly? Do you know what happened ultimately? I traveled by bus and never got the money-talk of being beaten at your own game.
Lessons Learnt-The Hard Way…..
I have had many similar incidences like the above which I won’t jot down here but the lesson I got out of them all boils down to one point-live in the NOW. Stop worrying about tomorrow. I wish everyone who reads this would stop postponing today’s joy for tomorrow .
I have had many people say I will enjoy life after school only to realize that after graduation, life is pretty much the same or even worse. Responsibilities come in together with pressures of work. You then say maybe marriage, maybe a second or third degree. When you achieve all these, you realize you are still empty inside.
Tomorrow in itself is a worry. You don’t know what it will look like, what it will bring et al. if only we could live NOW, embrace the pleasures, joys and blessings of today and let tomorrow worry about itself. Imagine how beautiful life would be with happy, healthy and less stressed people.
Happy People are a Pleasant Site….
I have come to realize that when you are happy, you exude positive energy and will equally attract it. Is it friends that you are looking for or a job? Is marriage an enigma to you or is it family members that are not friendly? Just be positive and positive energy will come to you.
At one point I was contemplating death because nothing seemed to make sense? Why have I been so unhappy? Why don’t things seem to work out? How do I work out this thing called life?
Happiness Comes From Within Out
One answer that I have come to realize over time is happiness comes from within. I appreciated the fact that I had to work on my self-esteem and confidence altogether. Tell you what? This 10-letter word called self-esteem can be the difference between life and death. Heard of these rampant cases of suicide and homicides? Most cases are caused by damaged self-esteem. It is the determinant factor between getting a job and joblessness.
Final Remarks
Let us work on our inner selves first, because all that we see is a reflection of what we don’t see. It is only confident people that have meaningful and lasting relationships. The reverse should explain why famous people commit suicide. From the outside, these people seem to have it all; money, fame, friends, wealth and influence. So why then do they cut their lives short? The answer is simple-they are battling an inner enemy called damaged esteem.
If I had known this early enough, my life would have taken a completely different route. However, it’s not too late- I am still in the process of building my confidence which I guess is not about to stop soon.
